July: blogging goals, friendship break-ups and a (little) summer whinge

Summer is not my favourite season – there, I said it. I know it goes against the summer-related excitement that I spoke about last month, but once we’re a few weeks in my enthusiasm for everything summery inevitably starts to waver. Don’t get me wrong, I love that the days are longer, lighter and warmer; that the air always smells faintly of barbecue and that weekends are often spent outdoors instead of in. I enjoy pre-holiday excitement, long afternoons spent at the park and evenings watching the sunset (except I don’t actually do that last one. I like to think I do it, but I don’t!). What I find grating, however, is the vague sense of competitiveness that underpins it all (and the anxiety that this can often induce).

If it isn’t competitive tanning (pretty much everyone I know is now sporting an enviable golden glow forcing me to rummage through my bathroom cabinet in the hunt for last year’s bottle of fake tan), then it’s multiple holidays a year or getaways that are ridiculously lavish. Sometimes, it’s also about the clothes, or – more specifically – about having a body that looks good in next to nothing (I find that my body confidence takes a serious hit over the summer) and, once it’s all over, the feeling that, unlike everyone else, you haven’t had ‘the best summer ever’ can leave even the most positive amongst us feeling a little downhearted.

I could go on and on about this subject and perhaps one or two ranty summer posts may sneak their way onto the blog over the course of the summer, but I promise that July’s content is a little more upbeat (kind of!). So, without further ado, this is what you can expect – or hope to expect – on My Bellyful throughout July:

Firstly, I’d like to have a stab at writing a piece focused on my summer goals. A little while ago, Jenny from Jenny in Neverland wrote a post titled 25 Spring & Summer blog post ideas and this ‘goals post’ was the one that caught my eye. I always enjoy hearing about the goals that other people have set themselves, but I’ve never actually written or even thought of writing one myself. I think that this would force me to consider what I’m actually aiming for – both in blogging and in life – and I’d love to know what you think about the targets I set myself (spoiler: they’ll almost certainly be too high!).

Sticking with the (loose) blogging theme, I thought I might also write a post about why I blog and how I got into it as I find this is a question that I’m often asked. I’ve briefly talked about it before, but I’ve never dedicated an entire post to it and now seems like a good time to write one.

Finally, July 30th is World Friendship Day and this has inspired some friendship-related content that I’m hoping to post later in the month. It hasn’t been written yet (when has it ever?!), but there are definitely some ideas whirling round my head that I’m hoping will eventually make it onto the blog (of course, that totally depends on whether or not I remember to write them!).

One of those ideas isn’t my idea at all, it’s actually taken from an article I read some time ago about friendship break-ups by Laura Jane Williams. In the piece, Laura Jane discusses how female friendships portrayed on television and in films are not a true reflection of friendship in real life and she references the research of Utrecht University in the Netherlands which states that most close friendships only last seven years. I found this piece really interesting and it got me thinking about how my own friendships have changed over time. Hopefully, I’ll be able to write something in a similar vein to Laura Jane’s article (although perhaps with less focus on break-ups and more on change), but in the meantime, you can read her piece in full here.

So that’s July’s content all mapped out. I hope you all have a wonderful summer and I promise not to put too much of a dampener on it (pun not intended…okay, maybe a little!).

 

 

 

 

 

28 thoughts on “July: blogging goals, friendship break-ups and a (little) summer whinge

    1. Do it! I’ve never written one before, but I’m really hoping that a goals post will help focus my energy/efforts, particularly with my blog. I love the idea of a bucket list too! I hope you write one and if you do, send me the link! Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂

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      1. I have written normal goal posts, and I managed to do this “May Blog A Day” thing, where I blogged every day in May… Feel free to look around and get some ideas for your own blog. That’s probably my biggest tip. Read others blogs for inspo and research and write down blogs you’d like to one day write. You’ve got this! I am loving your blog and thinking you are totally on the right track.

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      2. Wow! I’d love to be able to blog everyday for a month but I’m not sure I’d be able to sustain it!! I’ll definitely have a look round your blog (I’ve just followed you!). Thanks for the tip and thanks for your encouragement – it’s greatly appreciated!!

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  1. You know, I’m actually not that big of a fan of summer either. Like you, I enjoy the long days but I don’t like hot weather all that much. To me, it’s a bit annoying to step outside and just immediately start dripping sweat. Plus, I don’t have air con in my apartment so I’m literally sweating all the time.

    However, I didn’t know that the 30th is World Friendship Day!

    Great post! x

    Michelle
    dressingwithstyle-s.com

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    1. Thanks for reading and commenting, Michelle! It’s nice to know that there are other people out there who also aren’t overly keen on the hot weather!! I totally agree – getting dressed up and then sweating as soon as you get out the door is not fun!!

      Yes, World Friendship Day is the 30th – I didn’t know either until recently!!

      Thanks for your feedback 🙂

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  2. I never get my posts scheduled early either, I wish I was more organised but it just doesn’t happen haha! This was a lovely post I really enjoyed reading your ideas for different posts, the one about friendships sounds like it would be an interesting read!

    Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.com
    xx

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    1. I know, I’d love to be one of those people with loads of scheduled blog posts (or at least scheduled ideas), but I’m completely useless at it! Yes, I’m hoping the friendship one will be a good one too. Thanks for reading and commenting, Jess!

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  3. You know what, I agree with you. I love the idea of summer, but when you’re in it, it’s a completely different story! I really want to do a bucket list to get things done this summer. I also agree with how female friendships are portrayed on TV. I especially find it with Rachel and Monica in Friends. But then I suppose there has to be an element of fiction and it’s never going to be exactly like real life. Great post! (p.s. great blog too!!)

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    1. Ah thanks, Amy! Yes, summer is definitely one of those months where the thought of it (and the anticipation of it) are better than actually being in it!
      Monica and Rachel are a really good example of friendship that is slightly unrealistic – but would we want them to be any other way? It’s a tricky one!! Thank-you for reading and commenting 🙂

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  4. Lovely post! I too like to set goals, I find that it’s a good way to stay motivated. I couldn’t agree more about Summer. Not my favorite season, at all. The weather is way to hot for my liking. Can’t wait to read those posts! (:

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    1. Thank-you so much, Anjhaneè! I completely agree – goal setting is the best way to stay motivated and I’m hoping that if I can write some good ones they’ll also help get me organised!! Thank-you for reading and commenting 🙂

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  5. I completely agree! I love the thought of summer but it’s not actually my favourite, however I’m trying to embrace it and enjoy the little things. Great post xx

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    1. Thank-you, Billie! Yes, good idea – it’s definitely worth embracing summer (because you can’t do anything about it, right?!). Thanks for reading and commenting!!

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  6. I hate summer. There, I said it. Light nights are great, and better lighting for photos is also wonderful. But this year I have hay fever for the first time which isn’t fun, I don’t like summer fashion at all and I don’t appreciate the fact my makeup melts in the heat even though my body is barely warm. I’m always cold, I know that’s weird…7 years is really interesting, and quite sad when you think about the number of people you’ll lose in life. I’m currently thinking about how long I’ve been friends with my closest people now!! x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Ah yes, better lighting for photos is definitely a plus! I’ve always had hayfever and it can be a real nuisance at times – I hope you’ve got some good meds for it!! Summer fashion can be a super tricky one, especially if you’re feeling self-conscious

      I know, I think seven years is a strange amount of time to be friends with someone, but I guess the research isn’t relevant to everybody. It is sad to think, though, about the friendships you’ve had that have ended, sometimes for no reason other than your lives have just moved in different directions. Thank-you for reading and commenting, Sophie!!

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  7. Whilst I love summer, I do understand the points that cause you to feel the way you do. The competitive golden glow (Garnier Summer Body helps with this!) and the anxiety over body confidence in particular…

    I would love to read about your summer goals. I love those sort of posts and I think it’s a fantastic idea to sit down and give some thought to the things you would like to achieve. I am also in the process of writing a post about friendship. The difference between the media message force-fed to us and real life is important and people need to not feel bad about themselves for finding themselves in a different situation.

    Great post Leah, and lovely to have found your blog. x

    Amy
    http://www.missamyrach.com

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    1. Thanks so much, Amy! I know a lot of people really enjoy summer and I do too, I just find some things a little grating!

      Ooh, I’m looking forward to reading your post about friendship. I completely agree that the media’s depiction of friendship can often make us feel bad about our own lives and I’m hoping to address this in my own post.

      Thanks for reading, Amy. I love your blog too, you have some really great content on there! 🙂

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  8. Your introduction of this post really got me thinking! I feel like this whole comparison thing is honestly just ruining our happiness.
    Also, I usually don’t right monthly goals either, I always tell myself I will but for some reason I can only stick to daily and weekly goals haha! xx
    https://beaulife.org

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    1. I completely agree, we definitely need to stop comparing ourselves and I’m working extra hard on this since I read your post!!

      Yep, monthly goals can be difficult, but to be honest I even find daily and weekly goals hard to stick to! I figured that writing them down might help my motivation! Thanks for reading and commenting 😊

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  9. I love the summer vibe just like you do, but I have problems with accepting overwhelming heat (especially recently, since it’s super hot even if there is no sun and I am sweating so much I can’t handle it anymore, I swear!). I don’t care about tanning much (I am very pale naturally, so nothing works anyway) but I hate how all the girls look so divine there with their stylish outfits and I am in my shorts and t-shirt like a nerd. I understand you completely.
    Dorota
    http://www.fetchcandle.wordpress.com

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    1. Sorry, didn’t finish that comment before I posted it! Thank-you for reading and understanding how difficult the summer can be for those of us feeling slightly overwhelmed by the volume of tan and the lack of clothes!!

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    1. Thanks Kelsey! Yes, it sort of makes me accountable although, if I’m being completely honest, I often forget to check back to these posts to remind myself what it is I’m planning to write!! Thanks for reading and commenting, I’m glad you liked it!

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